<?xml version='1.0' encoding='UTF-8'?><?xml-stylesheet href="http://www.blogger.com/styles/atom.css" type="text/css"?><feed xmlns='http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom' xmlns:openSearch='http://a9.com/-/spec/opensearchrss/1.0/'><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5438649387466940675.comments</id><updated>2009-05-31T21:32:23.306-04:00</updated><category term='Bear Grylls'/><category term='Penelope'/><category term='Lost'/><category term='Pandora'/><category term='William Faulkner'/><category term='wedding'/><category term='Dana'/><category term='Widmore'/><category term='marriage'/><category term='Lydia Maria Child'/><category term='ridiculousness'/><category term='Ads'/><category term='Zimbardo'/><category term='Absalom Absalom'/><category term='Stephen Colbert'/><category term='Tour de France'/><category term='Doris Kearns Goodwin'/><category term='amniocentesis'/><category term='Concerts'/><category term='Google Algorithm'/><category term='On Point Radio'/><category term='Rebecca Harding Davis'/><category term='19th Century'/><category term='trailers'/><category term='Religion'/><category term='Ayelet Waldman'/><category term='Sarah Waters'/><category term='Will Ferrell'/><category term='Desmond'/><category term='Book Review'/><category term='The Odyssey'/><category term='choice'/><category term='Philadelphia'/><category term='assholes'/><category term='domestic violence'/><category term='feminism'/><category term='Richardson'/><category term='Samuel'/><category term='Bruce Springsteen'/><category term='Music'/><category term='Name Dropping'/><category term='Culture'/><category term='Clarissa'/><category term='parenting'/><category term='Life In the Iron Mills'/><category term='The Little Stranger'/><category term='Odysseus'/><category term='Vantage Point'/><category term='&quot;The Constant&quot;'/><category term='opinions'/><category term='AdSense'/><category term='vocal inflection'/><category term='Howard&apos;s End'/><category term='whispers'/><category term='Richard Henry'/><category term='The Lucifer Effect'/><category term='Movie Reviews'/><category term='abolition'/><category term='poetry'/><category term='Pat Buchanan'/><category term='1930s'/><category term='Forster'/><category term='Bourne'/><category term='Literature'/><category term='Anna Howe'/><category term='The Colbert Report'/><category term='Slaughterhouse V'/><category term='Hamster'/><category term='Two Years Before the Mast'/><category term='Stowe'/><category term='Man v. Wild'/><title type='text'>Calling It By Its Name</title><link rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#feed' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/feeds/comments/default'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/comments/default'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/'/><link rel='hub' href='http://pubsubhubbub.appspot.com/'/><author><name>ClearlyHowe</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/00875295843626382668</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><generator version='7.00' uri='http://www.blogger.com'>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>6</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>25</openSearch:itemsPerPage><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5438649387466940675.post-1303373224157076755</id><published>2009-05-31T21:32:23.306-04:00</published><updated>2009-05-31T21:32:23.306-04:00</updated><title type='text'>Holy crap, you're blogging again! I feel like I ju...</title><content type='html'>Holy crap, you're blogging again! I feel like I just had a convo with you in my easy chair--how delightful. You've inspired me to update the ol' Teenage Feeling for the first time in a few months.</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/2396431602270481277/comments/default/1303373224157076755'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/2396431602270481277/comments/default/1303373224157076755'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/2009/04/newsflash-bug-takes-advantage-of-my-eco.html?showComment=1243819943306#c1303373224157076755' title=''/><author><name>Helen E</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/05158700059306828478</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='24' src='http://bp2.blogger.com/_z8sVPv_1eZU/R6qTI4HjGwI/AAAAAAAAAAM/fOVRZwAs4VE/S220/matt+jon+beth.jpg'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/2009/04/newsflash-bug-takes-advantage-of-my-eco.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5438649387466940675.post-2396431602270481277' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/posts/default/2396431602270481277' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-778928525'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.displayTime' value='May 31, 2009 9:32 PM'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5438649387466940675.post-847380112951021238</id><published>2009-05-19T16:37:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2009-05-19T16:37:00.000-04:00</updated><title type='text'>I love my husband more than my baby - and I am obs...</title><content type='html'>I love my husband more than my baby - and I am obsessed with that child!  I have no problem admitting this fact, and Matt and I discussed it  before we ever had kids; the fact that we will never like anyone more than we like each other.  We choose our spouses, but we don't get to choose our children.  And to even conceive a child was your decision, so why can't you change your mind?  There is no way to avoid selfishness in childbearing.  Wanting a child or not is a purely selfish decision.  Was it "right" to have a child while I am in medical school, and Matt works fulltime?  Probably not, I can't give him the time and energy he deserves, and I must use other sources to do so, but I WANTED him.  So, I had a baby - and I have never been happier.  This issue exhausts me.</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/6865774172484398117/comments/default/847380112951021238'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/6865774172484398117/comments/default/847380112951021238'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/2009/05/are-you-bad-mother.html?showComment=1242765420000#c847380112951021238' title=''/><author><name>Ermasmit</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/13949031301335184341</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/2009/05/are-you-bad-mother.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5438649387466940675.post-6865774172484398117' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/posts/default/6865774172484398117' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-783715109'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.displayTime' value='May 19, 2009 4:37 PM'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5438649387466940675.post-5475368311673715605</id><published>2009-04-28T16:39:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2009-04-28T16:39:00.000-04:00</updated><title type='text'>When is this wedding happening, anyways? Geez, wha...</title><content type='html'>When is this wedding happening, anyways? Geez, whats a people gotta do to get an update?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;;P</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/7746035058191369109/comments/default/5475368311673715605'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/7746035058191369109/comments/default/5475368311673715605'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/2009/04/love-and-marriage.html?showComment=1240951140000#c5475368311673715605' title=''/><author><name>A Joyful Girl</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/11022250459241412300</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='OpenSocialUserId' value='04942964150233916520'/><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='23' height='32' src='http://bp1.blogger.com/_chc5ujeDg3A/R38JANc0-PI/AAAAAAAAAAU/L31s91y-q7s/S220/fbook2.jpg'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/2009/04/love-and-marriage.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5438649387466940675.post-7746035058191369109' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/posts/default/7746035058191369109' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-509551607'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.displayTime' value='April 28, 2009 4:39 PM'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5438649387466940675.post-4436813899851802596</id><published>2008-03-28T10:01:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2008-03-28T10:01:00.000-04:00</updated><title type='text'>OK, he is damned cute, I love it!</title><content type='html'>OK, he is damned cute, I love it!</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/6739874919829438758/comments/default/4436813899851802596'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/6739874919829438758/comments/default/4436813899851802596'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/2008/03/irrepressible-cuteness.html?showComment=1206712860000#c4436813899851802596' title=''/><author><name>Ermasmit</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/13949031301335184341</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/2008/03/irrepressible-cuteness.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5438649387466940675.post-6739874919829438758' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/posts/default/6739874919829438758' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-783715109'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.displayTime' value='March 28, 2008 10:01 AM'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5438649387466940675.post-457395230860402389</id><published>2008-03-27T01:14:00.000-04:00</published><updated>2008-03-27T01:14:00.000-04:00</updated><title type='text'>yeah you! congrats on the phd program</title><content type='html'>yeah you! congrats on the phd program</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/4766056488243818200/comments/default/457395230860402389'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/4766056488243818200/comments/default/457395230860402389'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/2008/03/sunday-morning-coming-down.html?showComment=1206594840000#c457395230860402389' title=''/><author><name>emmy koehne</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/10632696209479427172</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='16' height='16' src='http://img2.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/2008/03/sunday-morning-coming-down.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5438649387466940675.post-4766056488243818200' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/posts/default/4766056488243818200' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-2132919705'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.displayTime' value='March 27, 2008 1:14 AM'/></entry><entry><id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5438649387466940675.post-743280679477725557</id><published>2008-03-04T01:36:00.000-05:00</published><updated>2008-03-04T01:36:00.000-05:00</updated><title type='text'>Screw Oprah.  Stop it with the librarian talk.  Or...</title><content type='html'>Screw Oprah.  Stop it with the librarian talk.  Or at least with the high school talk, because librarians are sexy.</content><link rel='edit' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/6442241984029334897/comments/default/743280679477725557'/><link rel='self' type='application/atom+xml' href='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/6442241984029334897/comments/default/743280679477725557'/><link rel='alternate' type='text/html' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/2008/02/light-in-august.html?showComment=1204612560000#c743280679477725557' title=''/><author><name>Helen E</name><uri>http://www.blogger.com/profile/05158700059306828478</uri><email>noreply@blogger.com</email><gd:image xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' rel='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005#thumbnail' width='32' height='24' src='http://bp2.blogger.com/_z8sVPv_1eZU/R6qTI4HjGwI/AAAAAAAAAAM/fOVRZwAs4VE/S220/matt+jon+beth.jpg'/></author><thr:in-reply-to xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' href='http://byitsname.blogspot.com/2008/02/light-in-august.html' ref='tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5438649387466940675.post-6442241984029334897' source='http://www.blogger.com/feeds/5438649387466940675/posts/default/6442241984029334897' type='text/html'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.itemClass' value='pid-778928525'/><gd:extendedProperty xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' name='blogger.displayTime' value='March 4, 2008 1:36 AM'/></entry></feed>
